seiko criteria sna501p1

something for me to splurge on next...a dress watch!

trains in Japan...wow

from dannychoo.com

Casting Crowns - Who am I

this song makes me very emo for some reason...

saving grace...for another year

a clearer and better picture

after all that has happened over the past few weeks...the articles i've read...the advice i've heard...i have a clearer and better picture of the mistakes i've made...

i realise i've got to stop being a knucklehead when it comes to seeing what you can offer and start finding the right audience who'll appreciate what you have...

being "a nice guy" is not a trait that girls are specifically looking for...any joker can be a nice guy...not saying that u must be a meanie to girls or neglect the niceness department, but being "nice" alone doesn't set you apart from the REST of the other "nice guys"...

if you cannot attract her at the first try, it's highly unlikely she'll ever be attracted to you...attraction just happens...it cannot be forced...i like these sentences from my previous post which pretty much sends the message across...

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL

another thing which i think is pretty darn important is knowing exactly what to do in each type of situation with women...if you dont know what to do or how to do it correctly, you'll probably screw it up...

i know what i've got to offer...nothing much to shout about...nothing spectacular at all really...not doing the "being modest or pessimistic or low self esteem" nonsense, but no one else knows me better than myself...

if there's any consolation i can give myself, i can only say that i've not found my audience who can appreciate me for what i am yet...

The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes...

guess where i got this from---facebook...lol...now i know where i went wrong le...lol

title was way too long to fit into the blog title...anyways...here it is in full:

“The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women—And What To Do About It...”

Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women—And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes...

-By David DeAngelo, Author Of “Double Your Dating”

MISTAKE #1: Being
Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys?

Of course you have.

Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

What's going on here?

It's actually very simple...

Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what?

Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.

And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.

I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.

Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To
“Convince Her To Like You"

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just notinterested?

Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!

Never, ever, EVER.

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?

But we all do it.

When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.

Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her
For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

Another HORRIBLE idea.

Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.

Don't get me wrong here.

You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.

But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.

You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.

Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...

MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?

If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.

Well guess what?

It's only NATURAL when this happens...

That's right, I said NATURAL.

When you do these things, you send a clear message:

"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".

Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing
“How You Feel” Too Early In
The Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.

Attractive women are rare.

And they get a LOT of attention from men.

Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE

An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

And guess what?

Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.

That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

They know what to expect.

And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.

Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

There's a much better way...

MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

But does the same apply for women?

Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?

Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.

And ANY guy can learn how...

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It
Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.

And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.

But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...

And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.

YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving Away
All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.

Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.

Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.

Another bad idea...

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing
EXACTLY What To Do In Each
Type Of Situation With Women

Now I'm going to blow your mind...

A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.

And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...

Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.

If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

And you KNOW it.

It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.

I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

Hey, I've been there myself.

Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women...

About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.

It frustrated the hell out of me.

One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.

Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.

I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.

It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.

I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.

retail therapy

sports fair going on at taka from now till 28th May...i raided the saucony stuff...total damage...$107.70...woopie

yearning to love and be loved in return

the "perennial yearn"..."the yearn of all yearns"...it continues to elude me...for the second straight year in a row...i seem to have a thing with knocking on wrong doors...

maybe it's a test...sometimes the tougher it is to obtain something, the more you'll treasure it when you get it...hmmmmmmmmmm

did you know...

was going through my mailbox when i came across this article about some "did you know"s

did you know that the 3 most difficult things to say are "i love you", "i'm sorry" and "help me".

did you know it's easier to say what you feel in writing than saying it to someone in he face? but did you know it has more value when you say it to their face?"

kk trip (april 26 to May 1) part 3

kk trip (april 26 to May 1) part 2

kk trip (april 26 to May 1) part 1

mt kinabalu certs

certificates issued after the climb

learning to be the right one

flipped thru the latest issue of duet magazine...came across some comments which caught my attention again...

"one should learn to be the "right" one for his or her partner, rather than asking the other person to conform to expectations."

"a relationship is not about finding the right person; it's about learning to be the right one. If someone is self-centred or controlling, it will be quite challenging to find another person to accommodate him or her."

"selecting a partner is like buying a hamper. in a hamper, there will be items you like and those you don't, but it is a total package. when you accept someone, you have to accommodate his or her strengths and weaknesses."

"sometimes third parties can "see things more clearly" than two parties involved in a relationship. ask for specific feedback and consider carefully. hopefully you are able to see things more objectively since you are out of this relationship at the moment. do use both your head and heart when deciding whether to get back together."

"whether a person loves you?-you will need to consider if his/her words, actions, behaviors are consistent. the other factor in this love equation is your feelings towards him/her."

"consider what attracts you to this guy/girl and whether he is "good life partner material" based on intrinsic and lasting things like his/her good qualities and character."

"being the right partner yourself is just as important. ask yourself what good qualities are you bringing into the relationship."

"there is not mr right or ms right, only whether one is suitable for the other. look at yourself-have an honest assessment of your own pluses and minuses, and look for someone who can help bring out the best in you and yet understand your shortcomings."

so what are the major take-aways...learn to be the right person...intrinsic and lasting qualities...

not giving up

追求爱慕的异性是很常见的说法。其实对方不喜欢你，你再怎么追也没用，对方喜欢你，根本 不需要挖空心思去追。或许真有一天他被你的诚意所打动，可最终大多还是会分手的。因为爱情不是感动，你不是他心目中的理想伴侣，即使一时接受你，将来碰上 他心仪的那一位，一样会离开你。当然，对于喜欢你的人，你还是需要花点心思去讨好他的，因为这样才像拍拖，才浪漫。

call me stubborn, call me naive...i'm not giving up just yet...not yet...

reality check....reality bites...ouch...

we trashed things out last night...spoke our minds...made our peace...

i wanted to hear the truth instead of the "it's not you, it's me" nonsense...because if it's me...i need and want to know...

so the reality is...it's me...too quiet...not matured enough...and the august date is scrapped...

my deficiency in communication skills played a part in my own undoing...and i let my insecurities get the better of me...i could not get the reassurance i needed and every single time that other guy did sthg whenever he pleases, my resilience got tested time and time again.

and this time round, i really blew it...

we're still friends...good friends...nothing more...nothing less...

incidentally...another gal pal offered me some more "girl's perspective" on the relationship topic...this time its weimei all the way from down under...hehe

"when you are comfortable with yourself... you are attractive
if you laugh at what makes you laugh.. do what you like to do... know that you are not overly autistic... and still do activities that you feel satisfied and rewarded... that's all you need to do.

when you talk to people, talk with confidence
but if listening is your strength, then listen

but good communication is not a talent
it's just techniques and techniques can be learnt

but you must learn with confidence.. with joy.. and know that it's not a bother.. Once you think learning those communication skills are a bother, then they will never become part of you.

Remember you don't have to entertain.
You can equally talk with confidence, with sensitivity, and still be a good communicator even if you can't entertain.

humor is not everyone's talent.
again, if you feel free to say whatever you think of, and dare to express it, sometimes, you will be amazed that even you can be humorous

but really.. quiet men who talks little.. but can still hold a conversation, can be sexy.. :P

when you talk with a girl, it boils down to a simple fact that you want to get to know her.
naturally, you have to be confident while being interested in her.
not being shy and still interested

girls cant read minds!!
they just know you guys are shy.. that's all..

in fact, shy guys are usually very attractive.
attractive inside.

and many girls who have substance like to listen to that part of the shy guy
you have that sensitivity... keep it in you... and use it when you talk to any person.

you know... EVERYONE has their own attractive parts
many people just don't realize that.

quiet DOESN'T mean boring.
it just means you haven't found the right audience

and we can't please everyone... even if she is gorgeous, but if she can't see that attractive part of you... then she can't see it.
then just be cool.. and remain as friends.
who knows, as times go by, maybe she can see it??

if a girl likes you, she must feel the attraction to you.. and attraction is not a choice
attraction JUST happens.

if it doesn't happen now... you can try hard... do things for her.. gifts.. services...kindness..etc.. the girl can still find you boring..

i'm a girl.. so i know..

you know.. when a guy do so much things for you.. even to tears.. if you don't feel the attraction.. you JUST don't feel it.. it can't be forced.

but when a girl finds you interesting... you don't even have to say much things..
each time you talk to her, she will just smile.
even if it's that little.

so... in other words.. just be yourself..
really.. if you have to try that hard to think what if a girl says you are boring..etc.. dude, that girl is NOT for you."

so verdict is...adrian needs help on communication techniques

a wall and a mountain

just came back from kota kinabalu yesterday...scaled mt. kinabalu and did rafting at Kiulu river...will post pics once i get them resized...

still stuck at the wall i ran into last week...tricia offered some advice from a gal's perspective which i thought was pretty meaningful...all i can do now is persevere and wait...